Invite them to have a conversation, not to debate. A debate is I want to make my point, you want to make your point, and we’re going to fight it out. That tends to get their guard up. You say, hey, I want to have a conversation with you. I want to understand why you feel the way you feel. I want you to convince me that I need to change my way of thinking. And I appreciate your sharing your views. I’m interested in how you feel. And that’s what a lot of people want. They want to be heard. They want to be able to speak their mind freely without fear of retaliation or somebody beating them over the head for their views or ramming their own views down the person’s throat. So give them that.

Daryl Davis
Every Racist I Know Voted for Donald Trump
The Atlantic