Spaces Opening Up Inside

Why would I want that? The pain, their loss… it’s all I have left of them. You think the grief will make you smaller inside, like your heart will collapse in on itself, but it doesn’t. I feel spaces opening up inside of me, like a building with rooms I’ve never explored. Dolores Abernathy Westworld

Letting Go of Control

Self-control requires being too concerned with the image of self. People at the construct-aware stage yearn for a mode of being based on noncontrol, a mode of existing not requiring effort, grounded in “radical openness,” a mode not grounded in ego at all. Ronald R. Irwin Handbook of Adult Development & Learning

The Wilderness Between

Since today’s wilderness is not a literal one, but a landscape of the heart and mind, our society has not paid much attention to it. He could not only break the bondage of the past and convey the vision of a future, but also get the people through the wilderness that always comes between where … Read more

Questioning Our World

We’re forced to reconsider things we took for granted, and we’re forced to think about new things. Adverse events can be so powerful that they force us to think about questions we never would have thought of otherwise. Marie Forgeard The Surprising Benefit Of Going Through Hard Times

Rebuilding Authentic Meaning & Identity

Rebuilding can be an incredibly challenging process. The work of growth requires detaching from and releasing deep-seated goals, identities, and assumptions, while also building up new goals, schemas, and meanings. It can be grueling, excruciating, and exhausting. But it can open the door to a new life. The trauma survivor begins to see herself as … Read more

Rebuilding Ourselves & Our World

By Tedeschi and Calhoun’s account, the way that trauma shatters our worldviews, beliefs, and identities is like an earthquake—even our most foundational structures of thought and belief crumble to pieces from the magnitude of the impact. We are shaken, almost literally, from our ordinary perception, and left to rebuild ourselves and our worlds. The more … Read more

Avoiding a Parcelled Self

I haven’t defined a self, nor do I want to. A self is not something static, tied up in a pretty parcel and handed to the child, finished and complete. A self is always becoming. Being does mean becoming, but we run so fast that it is only when we seem to stop — as … Read more